Cinderella was a smart gal

Cinderella is a great fairytale...one of my favorites. There are so many parallels that can be drawn from the tale of Cinderella, but one of the things I love most is the extravagant way she spent her night at the ball.

If you don't know the story, Cinderella was a mistreated step daughter who had nothing but some fat mice as friends. When her fairy godmother shows up, she is magically transformed into a beauty right off the runway and in perfect time to go off to the palace for a ball. She is transported in an ornate carriage, courtesy of magic and her godmother.

I love this story because the fairy godmother held nothing back. Cinderella went to the ball in a fabulous gown, wearing a tiara, elbow length gloves and glass slippers. She traveled in a one-of-a-kind carriage with attendants and flawless white horses. She didn't just go to the club for a night out...no, she went to the palace. And she didn't just meet any guy there, she met, danced and captivated the prince.

She went for the best of the best. Smart gal. We could all take a page from her playbook....and borrow her fairy godmother' sense of style.

Here's my message to all the ladies....no matter your age or relationship status. There is nothing wrong with wanting it all, looking for the best and not settling for less. Keeping things in check and not waiting for mice to turn into horses and pumpkins into coaches, it is good to know what you want and to go after it...especially in relationships.

You want to be, pardon my old fashioned terminology for a moment.....courted, then don't settle for thrown together, a honk of the horn and you're out the door kind of night. You are worth him coming to the door, waiting anxiously to pick you up to take you some place where his attention is devoted to you.

You want to be romanced....then don't settle for physical acts that cheapen your body and your heart. You are worth a card, a note of appreciation, him standing outside your window butchering your favorite love song.

You want someone who will listen to your heart and be willing to try and understand....then don't settle for a relationship that is all lips and no talk. Be open, be honest and share from the heart. He's not a mind reader... Heck, even the prince needed a posse to find Cinderella. They need to know what we're thinking, feeling and needing. Don't be afraid to know it for yourself and then communicate it.

You get the idea? Decide what you want...how does it look...what is important and then wait for the right moment in time, your chance at the ball, your fairy godmother's visit .... don't push it, force it or try to shove your foot in someone else's glass slipper like those horrible step sisters.

Wait for prince....he's waiting for his princess.